13/02/2017 05:35 SAST | Updated 21/02/2017 12:15 SAST

11 WTF Things Black Women Have Heard When Dating White People

Seriously people. WTAF?

Whether you're the best athlete of all time i.e. Serena Williams or a revered actress like Hlubi Mboya, when you are a black woman dating a white person, somebody somewhere will have something to say about it.

Our political history fuels the scrutiny of interracial relationships. After all, South Africa is the home of apartheid, the Group Areas Act, which corralled different racial groups into different geographical areas, and the Immorality Act, which made it illegal for black and white people to marry or have sex.

But it's 2017 and no one today should have to explain their dating choices or their sex lives. Still, no matter how many times you explain, there are some people who insist on asking questions that inspire all the eye-rolls.

We asked black women about the strangest things they were asked when they dated white men. We thought we knew what we were in for, but we were never ready.

1. "So... how's the sex?"

Uh... the same as sex with any new person?

2. "Are they South African? Because ... you know."

No, we don't know. Is a white person from overseas really less likely to be racist than a white South African?

3. "Oh, so you're into oil miners now?"

I don't know what you ... Actually, this doesn't even deserve a response.

4. "Do their parents like you?"

Seriously, parents could hate anyone.

5. "Are they woke?"

They could be black and asleep AF. Next question please?

6. "Do they bath every day?"

What does hygiene have to do with race?

7. "Oh, so you're a coconut, then?"

You'd better stop right there.

8. "So, he has a fetish?"

So what you're saying is there has to be something wrong with a white person who's into black people?

9. "Are you racist towards your own kind?"

Stop. Read a book. I'm black. I can't be racist.

10. "But how do you kiss? They have no upper lips."

This is just ridiculous. Walk away.

11. "But doesn't his dick look like a raw sausage?"

No. Just no!

If you liked this, here's some more: 7 More WTF Things Black Women Hear When Dating White People

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