06/04/2018 10:11 SAST | Updated 06/04/2018 11:29 SAST

Dear Men – A Child's Sex Is Determined By Your Sperm!

This "Woman, you must bear me a son!" nonsense must really stop. Tell your sperm that.


On Thursday's episode of Mzansi Magic's polygamy show, "Uthando Nes'thembu", polygamist Musa Mseleku sat his four wives down to let them know about his intentions to take a fifth wife, chiefly because he wants more sons.

He admitted to them that if there were more male children among the four wives, he'd have no reason to want more wives.

The fourth wife, MaNgwabe, asked pertinent questions that some of us wanted clarity over.

  • "Whose responsibility is it to give me a son?"
  • "I've been pregnant twice with girls, is it my fault that I conceive girls?"

What Mseleku was doing was placing a burden on his wives to bear him sons, as if he has no "say" in it. So we felt a little education was needed on such matters, because it is really tiring and frustrating to have men in 2018 utter such careless statements.

So Mseleku, here's a short biology refresher lesson for you, succintly expressed by your wife MaNgwabe, the nurse, and tweep, Meek Rhapsody. Summarily, it is your sperm that determines the sex of the child, not the woman.

Meek Rhapsody broke it down even better on Twitter:





Isn't it enough that women carry and bear children? Isn't it enough that they are mostly and sometimes unfairly the primary caregiver? Isn't it enough that when there are infertility issues, women generally carry the blame? And now women must be production factories until they produce a son? It's insulting, actually.

"Even if she gives you 100 sons, I won't like her," said Mseleku's second wife, MaYeni, in response.

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And do you know what Mseleku's plan is, now that his wives have not agreed to wife number five?

"I've got a plan. I'm going to get someone and then that person is going to give me more children outside of marriage. While I'm negotiating, I'll be making babies outside," he said in a video posted on Twitter that has since been deleted.

Clearly, however, inde lendlela (long is the journey), judging by the responses from men on social media.

1. It's the "boy-for-extending-family-surname" obsession

2. Girl children's value equated to cows

3. Man's insatiable appetite for children