12/04/2018 07:34 SAST | Updated 12/04/2018 07:34 SAST

12 Sex Toys That Sex Therapists Say Will Change Your Life

And yes, we have recommendations for women and men...

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Let's talk about sex (toys): Whether you're single and doin' it yourself or in a relationship, chances are your sex life could benefit from a little product play.

With that in mind, we asked sex therapists to share the sex toys and products they think every grown-up should have in their bedroom. Below are their top 12 picks.

  • 1Minna Life Limon
    Minna Life Limon
    Minna Life
    "The Minna Life Limon is hands-down my favorite vibrator ever. It has a unique squeezable technology, which means that the harder you squeeze, the more intense the vibrations get. It's incredibly intuitive and easy to use." -- Vanessa Marin, sex therapist and online sex therapy course creator
  • 2Nova By We-Vibe
    Nova By We-Vibe
    Nova by We-Vibe
    "Nova by We-Vibe is a vibrator contoured to provide clitoral and G-spot stimulation. It is a modern version of The Rabbit with a clitoral stimulator that flexes and moves with your body. I recommended this device if you're looking for multisensory orgasms." -- Shannon Chavez, a psychologist and sex therapist in Los Angeles
  • 3LELO Hugo Remote Controlled Vibrating Prostate Massager
    LELO Hugo Remote Controlled Vibrating Prostate Massager
    "More and more men are opening up (literally!) to the joys of anal and prostate play, and I think the LELO toys are a fantastic way to take it to the next level, especially the Hugo prostate massager. This toy comes with two powerful motors, one for the prostate, another in the base for the perineum." -- Marin
  • 4Fleshlight Turbo
    Fleshlight Turbo
    "Sure, the Fleshlight is a way for guys to get off. But it can also be a great way for guys who have trouble ejaculating during intercourse to figure out how to reach orgasms without their own hand touching their penis. (Many men have never had that experience)." -- Stephen Snyder, a sex therapist in New York City and the author of Love Worth Making: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Term Relationship
  • 5Barbell by Betty Dodson
    Barbell by Betty Dodson
    "The Barbell by Betty Dodson is a pelvic floor exerciser, dildo, and pleasure joystick all in one. The barbell is a stainless-steel weighted device that can be placed in vaginally during self-stimulation. The weight of the barbell exercises pelvic floor muscles to improve arousal and orgasm strength. A genital workout with a happy ending!" -- Chavez
  • 6Jimmyjane Afterglow Natural Massage Oil Candle
    Jimmyjane Afterglow Natural Massage Oil Candle
    "The Afterglow is a solid candle made from natural, good-for-the-skin ingredients (including jojoba, shea butter, vitamin E and aloe) that melt into a luxurious, smoky, sweet-smelling massage oil for partners to use while indulging in major manual fun. Housed in an elegant ceramic container, with a pinched corner to facilitate pouring, this massage oil is the perfect complement to massage, sensual or not." -- Laurel Steinberg, psychotherapist and assistant professor of sexology at the American Academy of Clinical Sexologists
  • 7LELO Smart Wand
    LELO Smart Wand
    "The large Smart Wand by LELO has a powerful vibration intensity and a curved handle so it is easier to hold during self-stimulation. The SenseTouch technology gradually increases the intensity and speed with increased pressure. This is a whole body massager that is very effective in helping women orgasm." -- Chavez
  • 8Bumper Thrust Buffer
    Bumper Thrust Buffer
    Perfect Fit
    "The Bumper is made by a company called Perfect Fit. This very soft silicone device fits over the base of a man’s penis, reducing penetration depth. Ideal for men with very long penises who can’t thrust freely for fear of hurting their partners — or for couples craving a different kind of thrusting sensation. This video shows how it works." -- Snyder
  • 9Play Zone Kit
    Play Zone Kit
    Perfect Fit
    "Again from Perfect Fit, this Play Zone Kit takes the guesswork out of selecting a cock ring. You get a full set of silicone cock rings of various sizes stacked on a conical tower, so you can experiment with which ones work best for you." -- Snyder 
  • 10LELO Ina Wave
    LELO Ina Wave
    “Rabbit-style vibrators like the LELO Ina Wave stimulate both the 'outer clitoris' (the part that’s visible under the clitoral hood) and the 'inner clitoris' (the unseen part that wraps around the vagina). Of all the rabbit-style vibrators out there, this is the one that gets raves from my patients." -- Snyder
  • 11Magic Wand Massager
    Magic Wand Massager
    "The Magic Wand is perfect for women whose orgasmic threshold is set high -- in other words, those who have trouble climaxing or for those who may have never been able to yet. Its intense, variable speeds are powered by a plug-in cord which means there will be no dying batteries. It really gets the job done." -- Steinberg
  • 12Wicked Aqua Lube
    Wicked Aqua Lube
    "Yes, lube! Most people don't think of lube as a sex toy, but it is one of the best things you can introduce into your sex life. Lube decreases pain and discomfort, amplifies sensation, and is just plain fun to play with! My favorites are Pjur Original and Wicked Aqua." -- Marin